Foreigner Spouse,True&False!

   What i will discuss on this article is about truth and false believes of having a foreign husband.

   When i was a girl, i keep hearing from my surroundings about having an American husband(All white people that seen in Philippines,Filipino thought they are all americans.) and thats a fact. I grew believing that having a foreign husband makes you 'rich'. Which is 'false'. Of course i was a girl raised in a remote countryside of Barili Cebu, by a farmer and a carpenter. Never been in a city not until i was 13(moved in with my Uncle's family during my junior high)since they suggested to support me graduate my high school. 

    Being a country girl,you get fooled so fast with the lies around you. Seems all Filipino believed that having an foreign husband makes you rich. Worst case scenario in some filipino parents they are selling their own child as an exchange of a better life. 

   Of course since i grew up very poor my young mind imagine of having the things that i never have will be possible if i marry a foreigner. Being a poor girl gets easily fooled by the lies tales by your surroundings. I lost my dream of having a foreigner husband when i was on high school because it is just not possible, getting or having a decent penpal(writing foreign men) via mail just does not going to work, snail mail gets back to me for more than 1 and half month, it is so boring to wait.

   My dream having a foreign husband was totally gone in my mind after i graduated high school, i was 17 then and all i want to do those times was to get a job save up for my college and most importantly to help my Mama Virgie financially, it felt good when you give to your love ones/family you see. I was young so cannot work at the factory,its illegal but being a maid at 12yrs old seems not,in the Philippines. So i worked as a maid at the korean family for 3months then i met a european family with a cute kid and it hit me back again my dream of having a white husband. For me to have a beautiful child like theirs. I know it is such a lame reason, but thats true. 

With the most amazing man I've met,the husband. 

    I wanted to have a white husband for me to have an exceptionally beautiful kid/s. Which i now have. 

   Anyway, i will summarizes the difference of abilities between Filipino and  white(specifically my Canadian husband). 

TRUE: 

(1) having a white husband is alteady a huge jackpot in my entire life. 

(2) he is faithful,loving,thoughtful, caring and understanding. 

(3) Having a white husband doesn't mean you are a millionaire that walking around with him around with people makes you sparkles like a diamonds. No you do not. 

(4) like us Filipinos, he already works hard to earn for a living. The fact that living in Philippines is way more cheaper than living in Canada.

(5) My husband is the most responsible man I have ever met. And thats why I fall for him. I am smitten by his kind heart. 

(6) Being married to him doesn't mean that i do not have to work anymore because he will pay the bills for me, put food on the table and will take care of me, thats not how marriage works, marriage is not 50-50, it should be 100-100 for that marriage to last for a lifetime. 

FALSE:

(1) He is not a walking cash-machines.

(2) He is not rich, him like me also grew up poor. 

(3) He,absolutely not pooping money to give away to my family. 

   Many filipina believes that, their husbands salary should be for the two of them, but her salary should only be hers, what the hell? its not cultural believes anymore. Filipina spouses to a foreigner should understand that a marriage is a teamwork in everything. Help each other in everything including paying house rents, bills and so fort. A filipina wives should understand that being married to a foreigner is not for benefits but love,to have each others back just like any marriages in the Philippines. Filipina should stop believing that you have to work in your husband's country so that you can give your Family back home the life they deserves? What about your life with your new family (which is your husband) you get married for you to have your own family. Because technically speaking, your family back home in the Philippines is no longer your first priority.